Being a parent is the hardest thing I've ever done...
Posted on 9th May 2017 at 10:47
Being a parent is the hardest thing I've ever done but also the most joyous thing I've ever done.
At the moment I am sitting at my desk staring at a school photograph of my two beautiful daughters. The smiles on their faces are gorgeous and fill my heart with joy. I love these two beings more than anything else on the planet.
But oh my word I struggled when they first came along. The love I feel for them has never been in question but I wasn’t prepared for the emotions of guilt, frustration and downright irritation. I wasn’t prepared for the immense need to feel in control, the need for them to do as they were told. I wasn’t prepared for the whirlwind that appeared in my mind even when it came to something as simple as walking to the shops.
The first 6 months of my youngest daughter’s life are a blur and I can’t remember much about my eldest daughter between the ages of 2 and 3. One incident I do remember though was the day that I screamed in her face.
I was trying to put my baby daughter down for her nap but my eldest girl simply would not leave me alone, she followed me around as I walked up and down with the baby, chatting away to me, making lots of noise, disrupting what I was doing until I lost my temper. I had the grown up equivalent of a toddler’s tantrum, at my toddler.
And halfway through I stopped, I pulled myself back and I knew that I needed some help. I didn’t go to my GP, I didn’t want to be put on some sort of medication that would make my brain fuzzy and unable to operate properly.
I went to my hypnotherapist. The man who had helped me change my life more than 10 years before. And he helped me change it again.
He reminded me of long forgotten techniques and he taught me new tools, not only to help me cope on a daily basis but also to help me leave those negative patterns of behaviour behind forever. I have never felt such immense relief, to know that I now had the tools I needed to move forward in the way I wanted to and not in a way dictated by some old patterns and beliefs.
And I want to share those tools with you. Being a parent is the hardest thing I have ever done. And the most joyous thing I have ever done. These days I can focus on the joy of it all much, much easier and I want to help you do the same thing.
So if you’re looking for a new set of parenting behaviours, not the same ones your parents used on you, not shouting and screaming, which gets us nowhere and leaves us feeling really crappy inside, then you're in the right place. I have developed a new series of workshops, specifically for parents, to teach you techniques that you can use to simply help you cope and feel happier about the challenges of parenting.
I’m not going to lie, life will still throw challenges at you but my aim is that you will have more tools to help you stay calmer and feel like you are enjoying it much more.
Learn more about my Get Happy Parenting Workshops in Warrington
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