Who disapproves of you?
Posted on 2nd September 2017 at 20:05
Is there someone disapproving in your life?
This is the sixth blog in the series taken from my recently published book ‘Get Happy!’ Each blog consists of the page from the book and then a bit more explanation and background to the thinking behind it.
This is Day 157:
“Hi all. Is there someone disapproving in your life?
Someone who watches what you do with pursed lips and a frown?
Someone who is vocal about this dislike of your words and actions?
When someone disapproves it means they are judging you by their own limiting beliefs, not yours.
I promise you that their disapproval says more about them than it does about you.
What does it actually say about you?
Not one single thing.
And if it says nothing about you, then very simply, let it bounce off you.
No need to take it on board, no need to absorb it.
Let it go.
We spend our lives looking for approval, don’t we? We spend our lives looking for approval from other people. Do we look for approval from ourselves? No. That would be far too sensible.
We look to other people to approve of what we are doing to feel like we have permission to do whatever it is we want to do. When we get our approval from other people, then obviously when they give us their disapproval, that affects us massively.
It affects us massively because we have already given them the power to have approval of us, so now we give them the power to disapprove of us.
Honestly, folks, there’s always going to be someone who disapproves of you. I am sure I have got countless people in my life who disapprove of the things I say and the things I do. I know I’ve got people in my life that do that. I don’t do the things in the way they want them done, or I don’t do them in the way they like, or I don’t say the things they like - disapprove, disapprove, disapprove.
It says absolutely nothing about me.
That disapproval says nothing about me.
It says absolutely everything about the beliefs and subconscious beliefs that that person has about themselves and about the world around them - about the world around THEM, not the world around me.
The only person that can disapprove, really properly disapprove of me, is me.
The only person that can approve, really properly approve of me, is me.
It doesn’t say one single thing about you unless you let it. Unless you allow it to. Pure and simple.
And if someone else’s disapproval doesn’t say anything about you, where is the sense in getting yourself wound up and upset about someone else’s approval or disapproval. There is no sense in it.
If you do something that you disapprove of, then deal with that.
Absolutely deal with that because you’re not living the way you want to live. You are not being the person you want to be, the person you choose to be. You are allowing yourself to be less than you are. And you are amazing.
So if it is you disapproving, brilliant. Use that. Go for it. Change something.
If it is someone else disapproving, it is not you that needs to change something, it’s them. And that is up to them to do, not you. You could spend your life trying to please someone else, trying to earn their approval and never ever do it because it’s got nothing to do with you. It’s got nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.
So go, enjoy.
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